Episode 21: Solo—Feel it to Heal It, Suppressed Sadness & Honest Self-Inquiry
Episode 21 is my latest solo episode, sharing some of the heavier challenges in my life recently. I go into a powerful experience of sadness, working through anger to get there, re-reading Dr. Glover's No More Mr. Nice Guy and his core message that most of us don't feel safe being ourself. I touch on the film Inside Out and lately I've been asking myself more deeply, 'Who I am?' as I think about my career, and questioning whether I'm really following my heart? Leaning into the saying, 'feel it to heal it' more, working with meditation, self-inquiry and how this is an individual version of what's needed in the world at large today. I explore the idea of physical vs spiritual pain and a more potent version of the golden rule, 'treat others how you'd like to be treated', but what if you treat yourself how you'd like to be treated? Finally, I finish the episode with a small piece of music on a new instrument.
“Who am I? And what do I believe in, and what’s in my heart?”
SHOW NOTES
• 5:00 A visit from sadness
• 9:00 Using a pillow for processing anger
• 14:00 What the fuck did I do to myself?
• 20:30 What’s in my heart?
• 23:00 Keeping perspective to enjoy the moments of freedom each day
• 28:00 The beautiful message of Inside Out and embracing sadness
• 33:05 The golden rule, but what about treat yourself like you’d want to be treated?
• 36:30 Re-reading Siddhartha and my take aways on experiencing pain in life
• 43:40 Perspective on the racial protests, relating to American history and current environment
• 49:00 Healing the world starts with healing ourselves, honest self-inquiry is required
• 53:20 Feel it to heal it
• 54:00 Music and ‘not thinking about what I’m thinking about’
• 55:45 Playing the sansula
Ryan Willms is a holistic life coach and creative director, based in Los Angeles. He works with clients world-wide to help them find a sense of balance, harmony and purpose in life through foundational pieces like nutrition, movement and mindfulness.