Episode 27: Dr. Robert Glover—What is a Nice Guy, Why we need Accountability & Embracing our Shadow

 

On the episode 27 of the podcast I speak to Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy. His book has been one of the most impactful I've read in my life, bringing awareness and healing to my life over years, having re-read it again recently. In our conversation Dr. Glover shares the process of writing the book, how he discovered his concept of the 'Nice Guy', and the realization that our common theme is that we generally don't feel safe being ourselves. We speak about the power of mens groups, coaches and therapists in keeping us accountable, holding up a mirror for us to become more aware and grow. Dr. Glover speaks on how it's improved his own relationships and how embracing our shadow can ultimately empower us and enrich our lives.

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Surrendering helps nice guys reclaim their personal power ironically, the most important aspect of reclaiming personal power and getting what one wants in love and life is surrender.
— Dr. Robert Glover

SHOW NOTES

• 3:30 Robert’s journey, starting 30 years ago

• 7:20 Learning the ‘Nice Guy’ roadmap and common relationship issues

• 11:00 Definition of a ‘Nice Guy’

• 15:45 Learning to be open and vulnerable

• 20:00 Discovering our core relationship fear

• 26:15 Navigating relationship in a new way; by listening

• 30:15 Importance of accountability; via a mens group, coach or therapist, to keep yourself honest

• 35:30 The need for nature and being outside each day, quieting the mind and tapping into bliss

• 40:05 Perspective on the global mens movement; finding tribe and initiation today

• 46:00 How do ‘Nice Guys’ relate to their parents, are they all the same?

• 50:00 Creating boundaries with your parents, process of taking a break

• 52:30 Why we have to embrace our shadow and how it helps us heal